“Give yourself the same care and attention that you give others and watch yourself BLOOM.”
It is much easier to make plants bloom than people! It is sometimes easier for me to focus on helping others bloom than myself. Someone once told me that you have to be pruned in able to bloom. That pruning process can be painful, and therefore, it is not all that appealing.
Momlife is busy. All of life is busy. I don’t think it matters what stage of life that you are in. There is always something that occupies your time and/or mind. I’m a wife and a mom. I have a variety of jobs and passions that fill my plate too. So, when I talk about ways to “bloom” it is coming from those perspectives.
BIBLE STUDY This is one way that I slow down and focus on what is really important in life. The clean laundry is important, but really and truly my Bible study should be more important. That doesn’t mean I need to study for hours on end and neglect everything else. Find a study that fits you, one that interests you to get you going. I have for the last few months been following the “She Reads Truth” study online. I simply go to the website and click “Read With Us”. It gives me a few scriptures to read and then a writer shares their thoughts on the subject. Finding a time to do this is different for everyone, but I function best if I do this first thing in the morning before anyone else stirs. I did it about 5:15am in the kitchen floor this morning!
Accountability FRIEND This is not a friend to keep you motivated to do your work. I would call that an accountability “partner”, but one person could fill both roles. You need a friend who can be honest with you and tell you to slow down and get that chipped fingernail polish off of your nails! It helps to have a friend (someone who loves you) that has insight into your life and goings on so that they can gently nudge you to take care of yourself. Because let’s face it, if we don’t take care of ourselves, we are not as fully able to take care of our family.
STOP moving! One of our boys has asked me more than once what I do while they are at school. He is asking this not because he thinks I sit on the couch and watch his favorite tv shows all day. His question comes because he doesn’t believe I ever sit down and watch tv. He may be right. I don’t want to sit down and watch tv, but I do need to be able to just stop and enjoy my coffee without doing anything and I mean anything else. That is a big challenge for me.
Get MOVING! I have shared a bit of my fitness journey. I didn’t really start running until I was over 25, and then, I only did it because a friend talked me into running my first half marathon. It wasn’t pretty, but I did it. Fast forward 15 years, and I have decided I might need to pursue triathlons. I do NOT believe everyone wants to do the physical activities that I do nor do I think less of them if they don’t. Moving can be dancing to the radio, walking around the block, planting flowers in the garden, yoga….the list is endless. It may not be totally comfortable at first, but once you get moving stress seems to move on out as well. It’s not a cure all, but it sure helps me.
De-Electronify! I’m not sure if that is a word. I am preaching this to myself as much as to anyone. Social media is important to stay on top of what is going on with our kids school activities. The jewelry that I sell is based on a social media platform for interaction. And to be honest, it is hard to ignore electronics. My watch dings. My phone dings. Everything dings! I am trying to be more organized and schedule conscious with my electronic use. I think that I could recover a lot of time if I can figure this out. Time that could be spent unwinding instead of up-winding…again, I may be making up words! I will report back – hopefully with success.
I am not an expert — just a lady with a CrazyFullLife. Maybe you have suggestions on other ways to find time for yourself. The list is always expandable!